Here's the link I found on my stats page (I wondered why Sadie's birth story had been the most viewed post in the last week!)
Initially, I started reading because I'm curious what the other side's opinion is. But, when I got to story #3, my jaw dropped. I was SO.IN.SHOCK. that anyone would take our birth story and misconstrue it in such a slanderous way, especially since it is such a positive experience in my life.
#3 Brain damage after homebirth:
"Sadie was born at home 2 days past her due date. Everything in my pregnancy and labor and delivery was normal…actually, so normal that my midwife told me I was clinically the perfect patient!! However, we found out later that I was Group B Strep (GBS) positive and didn’t know it. We have, after MUCH detective work, determined that the infection (which was found in my placenta and all the way through the umbilical cord) must have stressed Sadie out, causing her to pass meconium, which was aspirated and caused Hypoxic Ischemic Encephalopathy (HIE).The baby now has cerebral palsy.
Within minutes of being born, paramedics came to my home and rushed Sadie off to the hospital, where they discovered some brain damaged and then transported her to Phoenix Children’s Hospital (PCH). PCH practices newborn brain cooling therapy and immediately got her on a cooling blanket…"
What did the mother learn from this experience? Not a damned thing.
Here’s a comment she wrote on Baby Center:
"I love that you touched on that it’s NOT just about having a healthy baby in the end. It is about having a good birth experience and getting what you wanted. You’ve carried that baby for months in your belly, you should enjoy giving birth!! People say to me all the time that the biggest concern for this baby is it being born healthy (ie. not like Sadie), but I have had to give up my homebirth dream. I hate that I have to give birth in a hospital just so everyone else is comfortable. I’m choosing not to fight them (mostly my husband) this time… but next time I’m staying home!!! I’m glad you’re mad and unsatisfied and I hope that next time you get exactly what you want!"My first reaction was silly, I said, "I didn't post that on Baby Center, I posted it on Jesica's blog!" But that was only the beginning of the lies. Brian told me to immediately include a terms of service on my blog, and then to send Dr. Amy an email demanding that she remove my words from her website. This is what I wrote her.
While I appreciate free press and the use of the internet to express opinions about both sides of an issue, I do NOT appreciate the use of our family's homebirth story (about Sadie) to promote an opinion that we do not agree with. You obviously missed the point of Sadie's birth story, and of our blog. Sadie's issue was not due to homebirth, and would have likely had the same outcome at a hospital. How dare you insinuate that my decision to have a homebirth cause my child to be disabled!
Please refer to the terms of service posted on my blog (beckfamilyblessings.blogspot.com) and remove my family's story immediately from your website. In the future, I hope that I never see you construe someone's misfortune into words meant to cause fear or guilt.
Then I walked away. I needed to feed Sadie and visit the grocery store, so I let myself cool down some before coming back to it. However, later, I learned that there were comments. Most were not about me, but about trusting hospitals in general and not trusting your body. Then there were some about each individual tragic story posted on that website. One person even went so far as to say that the police should be investigating some of these parents!!
After reading through all the comments, I again had to walk away. It's hard not to have your feelings hurt in a situation like this. I'm not a politician and I'm not used to people spinning my words or criticizing my decisions. And after some more thought, I realized that I don't care what Dr. Amy believes about homebirth. She is very negative, but I know that there are those who are just as negative toward hospital births. However, I am offended that she would make me look like a bad parent in a situation that was out of anybody's control. I am hurt that she would insinuate that I was negligent about my prenatal care or birthing environment, when she doesn't know anything about it. And I am PISSED that other people would assume that I am a bad parent, or refer to my daughter as wasted potential because I chose to have a homebirth.
So, I came back once again, and I chose to reply to some of these comments. See below:
I think this comment hurt me the most. When I look at my birth-injured daughter in the eye, I don't see a birth-injured child at all. I see a beautiful creation of God, created to be exactly who she was meant to be. I see MY CHILD, whom I grew for 10 months in my womb, whom I birthed, and whom I love more than anything. She is beautiful and she is strong and she is teaching me so much more about life than I could ever imagine. She is perfect just the way she is.
Since corresponding with Brian and I some more, Lisa has since apologized for her comments and wished us the best with our new baby.